There seem to be all these wedding traditions or rather superstitions surrounding a wedding. I have to admit, I broke one. Well, sort of. Our wedding has been a long time in planning or specifically nailing down a date. Of course, one of the things a woman immediately starts looking at is wedding dresses, right?
Some time last year, we were trying to figure out how to make this happen. I was looking at dresses and my fiance mentioned he would like to see them. Ok, lets think about this for one second. Really, this is my best friend in the whole world. He is the first one I run to about any other kind of decision or whose opinion is the very first that I will ask. Does it not make sense to at least show him my choices of wedding dresses?
I know that is one thing a lot of people have thrown out the window and some fiance’s have gone dress shopping with their brides. I am really curious how other people feel about this? Truth be told, I would LOVE to get his input on my dress. This is the dress I will be wearing when we become man and wife and our new life begins (even though it already has hehe)! I did enjoy getting his opinion before. The good thing is, we liked similar dresses. Our top 2 choices were the same. He has requested I wear a white dress and when I showed him one I really liked in champagne, he actually liked it too and “considered” letting me wear a non-white dress. Haha Well, that was a long time ago and since I have kind of fallen in lust with another dress. A few actually, but one in particular. I am itching to see what he thinks… but I am not sure if that will take away from seeing it the day we get married.
Which brings me to my next wedding tradition/superstition I am thinking of breaking. Not seeing each other before the wedding. Ok, hear me out. Haha I have seen a few photo shoots and Platinum Weddings episodes where the bride and groom see each other in their attire before the ceremony in a secluded place. The photographer takes photos of the “first look”….SO romantic! I just don’t know. Do I just nix everything that says wedding? We’ve already made the decision against a Catholic wedding ceremony, so do I just have an un-wedding wedding? I did talk to him about this one day. Or at least I tried. He just sort of laughed at me and then got lost in thought when he realized I was serious. I got the impression he wasn’t too keen on the idea.
So, what do you guys think? Should I let the groom see and maybe help pick out my dress? Should our “first look” be before the ceremony with just the two of us and our photographer (whoever that will be!) or should it be in front of all our guests as I walk down the aisle as it has been for centuries (?)?
The Adventures of a Spring Bride 